I had a girl ask me at a party if she was too skinny to do Burlesque. I, of course, told her definitely not! In my opinion anyways and at least in Vancouver, Burlesque celebrates everyone!! We’ve got it all!! However, she thought that it seemed like it was only for the super voluptuous. I told her that its probably because this is one of the few places that honor the chubsters but it brought up some interesting thought for me on ye olde fat vs skinny burlesque debate! Yayy!! Can you hardly wait!?
Now for whatever reason, being fat is the most threatening thing to people. I’m not sure why but people are allowed to openly hate, mock, and despise people who are overweight. I completely understand that there are health benefits but I can also think that if it were that easy to be thin we’d all already be there. We don’t yell slurs at other unhealthy lifestyle choices. Its not an insult to call someone a smoker. Seriously imagine it- “You fucking smoking piece of shit!!!” That is serious comedy. Replace smoking with fat and…… you get what I’m saying. It is pure venom and hatred when someone is attacking someone’s weight. And it happens everyday to lots of really amazing people who are made to feel like they like they aren’t valuable and that their worth is only equal to how thin they are. Shit-tay.
So something that is cool about BurlyQ is that we can all play . Chubsters too! YAY!
But there is something interesting going on in terms of reverse fatism. People are getting all haterade on the skinny girls. A literal example is a review about Dinah Might’s performance at the Burlesque Hall of Fame from culturalcapitol.com (disclaimer: Dear Mr. Oxblood. I love you and your reviews. I actually really want to work for you. I’m sorry for calling you on your shit. Call me? xx)
“all I can say about Dinah Might is that I hate her perfect body and her stupid face—sorry, my thirteen year-old girl coming out. Seriously, isn’t burlesque for ALL body types and can’t someone whose face is jammin’, body hecka slammin’, go pose for FHM or something? Cash it in, hon.”
Umm. It IS for all body types! Even the “perfect” ones. Ok so maybe my thirteen year old girl is slightly jealous too but she is GOOD! No hatey hate!! Thats the easy thing to do. Whats hard is moving forward- its hard to see that being equal doesn’t mean being just as big of an asshole- it means behaving how you wanted to be treated. I think the biggest issue that holds women back in general is our perceptions and attitudes towards each other. I don’t know how much of it is evolution or genetics or something- but for women? Jealousy, labeling and not supporting one another is the main problem in the first place. Its really easy to want to say HA HA now you know how I feel but that isn’t helping! Its hurting.
There is some debate around “Curvy” shows or troupes that feature bigger gals exclusively and I get it. There is some exclusion here and now I might be backpedalling on my last point but I think that they are necessary at the same time. We don’t have shows that celebrate how thin someone is because it’d kinda be like giving yourself an academy award with your Mom in the audience. Its the same reason as to why we don’t have White People Appreciation month. Every day is White People Day. Its important for women to have pride in their bodies and honestly its alot harder when you are bigger. Plus it means so much to people to be able to see something that they can relate to. So so so much. HOWEVER- I also don’t think it means we can get all bitchy with our skinny sisters or treat them poorly.
I really think that Burlesque is going to play a really pivotal role for society and how it defines beauty. The message we are creating is that ALL women are beautiful; Chubsters, Stickbugs and everyone in between. There is nothing wrong with creating a future that truly believes in that and is one where we are supporting and helping and celebrating each other as we are.


Great words Ms O’Peel…
Gosh. There is sooo much to say and agree with here! I’ve been on both sides of this equation. I’d been a ripped size 2 for yeeears and received loads of the typical type of attention that one expects when someone is deemed to represent some sort of physical ideal. These last several years, I’ve become very much a member of the rubenesque, curvy, chubbster category. Ironically, I am much happier in my own skin and body at this current large size than I ever was when I counted every celery stick and spent 12 hours a week at the gym. (sad but true) I’ve also never let my size define me. It’s true, of course, that a not small portion of our society treats oversized humans as sub-standard humans, but I also think SOME (only some… not all!) of this behaviour comes from how larger people view and carry themselves. I have never apologized for my appearance, I’ve OWNED my appearance and rocked it to the best of my abilities, and as a result, I have never personally experienced anything but positive feedback about being one of the curvy burlesquers out there. For me, it comes back to carrying myself in the way I want to be perceived… and for me that doesn’t change based on my size. I totally get, support and respect the events and venues that are specifically geared for larger folks, but it’s not necessarily MY first preference as a performer. I am much more comfortable rocking my D cups and junk in the trunk as part of a ‘regular’ (whatever the frack THAT is!) burlesque show along side the skinny little a-cup gals! Because for ME, nothing else makes me personally feel like I am doing as much as I can to illustrate that ALL shapes and sizes are beautiful.
O’Peel:
Well, yes. And no. Dig my “12 year-old girl” disclaimer and you’ll dig that I’m talking out the side of my mouth. Dinah Might is a badass. I love her performance, I love her skills, and verily, I say unto you, I love her body. The commentary I made is just that– she’s so gorgeous by current fashionable aesthetic standards, it’s almost unfair. And I know her just well enough to think that I could get away with being a little crybaby about it.
Not that I disagree — the weight thing is such a hot-button topic that everyone gets divisive. But I’m down with intellectual debate. I’m also down with sarcasm. And never underestimate the power of good, old-fashioned envy.
Don’t ever apologize for calling me on my shit — I live for it.
xx
JDX